I know a Chinese to come to the United States from the summer exchange students, she told me she felt a strange thing. She boarding in an American home. The couple is a lawyer, has four from high school to elementary school boy. The somebody else a big house, have a boat and private plane, very rich, the way life is very simple. One time, both parents out on vacation, face before walk in the home of big in the refrigerator for at home four children put a is exactly the same as the size of the four a food, regardless of size, each a copy. And, back to each of them distribution a job, trim the grass, wash swimming pool, clean the kitchen, toilet, and so on. The 4 children, big food is not enough to eat, small can't eat. Big to small, small in doing their own generation that a family as the condition, with some points to the big. This really is a typical American family, said it typical, not to say that it has property (the family must be bigger than many other American families rich), but said its values. The first is equal, parents food distribution, four children regardless of size, everyone is a type a, almost unreasonable, no wonder my friend feel strange. The second is property view, every child a share, and that is to belong to him. How to control this property is his business. The third is rational negotiation, the older kids not enough to eat, can't hold strong bullying the weak, to small there to rob. He will get the extra food, you will have to one another they recognized by the fair trade to small to exchange. This exchange is rational, and kids know reasonable, can use this kind of reason. The reasonable children have no one is not selfish, they are not willing to put the food without costs to give to others, or no cost for others work. The children although is selfish, but will be Locke said the "honor shame heart" (Esteemand Disgrace) constraint, know what can be done (trade), what is can't do (hard rob). Locke said, "honor shame heart" can be good people to rational, it seems that is applicable to the U.S. the somebody else's children. Children's moral education goals Locke is enlightenment, let them know their own self interests, and in the rational self-control of self interest to understand. To the enlightenment for, of the dignity of people consciousness is the key, a person's self-control for his dignity and solid (my own free, rational choice, not by others of forced), and self interests then for dignity and expand to the interests of the relevant with others (equal dignity of other individuals).